It's really too long to put on here but basically my younger sister has moved in with my father and is taking advantage of him. She says she is taking care of him, but it turns out that he is doing everything for her. He isn't making her pay her way there and she never offers to even help buy groceries or anything else. Now he has paid for repairs on her car and she has money from the sale of her house, plus unemployment benefits.
Now she has caused a rift between my dad and my brother. And is starting to monitor my dad's calls from me and my brother. She answers the phone and tells me that my dad doesn't like using the phone anymore, so I should tell her what I want my dad to know, and she will tell him! She has started running over my brother's relationship with our dad, because he would go see my dad and my sister would try to overwhelm the conversation with what was wrong with her and how she couldn't deal with things. Plus she would start showing off things that she has made, instead of letting my brother talk to my dad about how he is, or going fishing, hunting or anything else they have had in common, without her butting in to bring the conversation back to her.
She doesn't call me or come over to my house until she needs something I have. And just recently she took my father to the hospital and didn't even call me or my brother! When I did talk to her about it, she said dad didn't want anyone to know! WE are his kids too! But then she starts telling everyone else around them about it.
I can't take much more of this- she has always thought that me and my brother got all the attention from our parents,and she got left out, (which we didn't) and now seems to be taking it out on us. We don't want to leave her out of things but we would like to have the relationships with our father that we had with him. She didn't seem to care before when she lived far off and picked her friends or husbands over being with dad. We are lost as to what to do about it without causing a bigger fight if we say anything about it.
PS- I am 51, my sister is 49 and my brother is 42. We don't have our mother, she is deceased now. Sorry this turned out being so long.